very sweet and thoughtful reader wrote in this month with this question about Christmas shopping:
Do you have any advice for what to get my best friend for Christmas? She just broke up with her boyfriend of three years recently because she caught him in a big, big lie. I was planning on getting her something else this year but considering the circumstances I want to get her something more special. If you have any thoughts on any gifts or any supportive advice I can give that would be amazing!
I can already tell from this question that you are an awesome friend, which is exactly what anyone needs when going through a breakup. Lucky girl! I’m sure she’ll appreciate you and anything you get for her, but here are a few things I know I would have majorly enjoyed my first holiday season post-major breakup.
1. Something to make her laugh.
She’s feeling sad, so she needs a belly laugh to get her smiling again. A funny book (like Tina Fey’s orMindy Kaling’s if she hasn’t read those) will crack her up, but this perfect little gift will tickle her taste buds AND her funny bone, so it’s a double win.
For $16 or $25, depending on the size, the Breakup Collection from Sugarfina includes “Plenty of Fish in the Sea” Swedish fish , “Men are Pigs” gummy piglets, and “Stop Kissing Frogs” apple frogs. So deliciously hilarious.
2. Something to make her feel pretty.
A breakup shakes even the most solid girl’s confidence, so a gift that will make her feel pampered and shiny will be a huge winner. If you’ve got the budget, with a gift certificate for luxurious massage would be amazing, but a blowout might be more affordable and equally good at making her strut her stuff. For less expensive but still appreciated, a pack of little samples of some fancy face creams or glittery eyeshadows would work too!
3. Something to look forward to.
She’s probably been doing a lot of staying in and wallowing, which is fine, but she needs something exciting she can look forward to as a reason to get her out of the house. Plan a post-holidays girls night, and wrap up a printed itinerary and the perfect red lipstick for her to wear for it as her gift. And obviously, follow through on the plans and make it the best night ever. This is how I’d do it:
4. Something to get her through family time.
No matter how much she loves her supportive family, the constant togetherness of the holidays might feel overwhelming when she’s feeling so depressed. (Not to mention the stress of answering questions about her new single status. Barf.) You could gift her a little care package to get her through the days at home: A gift certificate for the movies so she can slip out and see Les Miserables and have a good cry in the dark privacy of a theater, a mini-bottle of vodka in case she needs a secret dose of calm-me-down and meditation DVD might do the trick.
What extra-special gift would you give a friend going through a rough time? What would you like to receive if it were you? And seriously, how sweet is our reader to want to take such good care of her friend?
More on friends and breakups:
*You Be the Judge: Should My Friend Break Up With Her Boyfriend
*As If Break Ups Weren’t Bad Enough, Guess How Many Friends Will Probably Desert You Before Your Tears Even Dry
*A Guide to Staying Friends With Both Members of a Broken-Up Couple
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