‘Tis the season. Fa la la. You know: all that merry good stuff. In all honesty, the holidays are serious business. Between the shopping and cooking and picking out the perfect gift, who has time to worry about family drama? Hopefully you’re one of the lucky gals who does nothave to worry about what her family will say about bringing home a significant other for the holidays…
OK, before I go any further, MERRY CHRISTMAS! I hope you’re all at home with your loved ones enjoying the time together with some rad new gifts (and insanely good food). Maybe your guy has joined you in the festivities this year. If so, tell me the truth: how do your parents really feel about it?
J and I have been splitting the holidays between Long Island and New Jersey for the past few years now so it’s nothing new for us or our families, but it definitely took a little getting used to back in the early days. J’s parents were always pretty fine about having J and me stay over for Christmas; they had been dealing with the split-holidays thing for nearly a decade with J’s older brother and his wife. They totally understood that I was an important part of J’s life and that we wanted to spend the holidays together, just as much as we wanted to spend ‘em with our families.
My parents, on the other hand, took a little more time to get used to the fact that I wouldn’t be there on Christmas Eve, Christmas Day and some of the days following. I am the oldest child of two, after all. J and I alternate which family gets us the 24th and which family gets us the 25th to be fair, and my parents and sister are learning to appreciate the time they do have with us. But J and I are lucky—both of our families were always great about welcoming us BOTH. We never felt uncomfortable or like we were unwanted; that’s why J’s family feels like my family and my family feels like his.
But I know of a girl who said her parents would KILL her if she brought her BF home for the holidays. Her family does live a few hours away from where she (and her BF) lives, so since they don’t see her all the time they want that time JUST with her. No ifs, ands, or butts about it: she doesn’t think twice about not inviting him home for the holidays because it would just create too much friction. Plus, she really wants that one-on-one time with her parents, too.
How is it with your family? Do they welcome your partner? Did it take some time for them to warm up? And what’s the point you bring your guy home no matter what they think and they just have to deal with it? Does it have to be super-serious with him? Happy Holidays again, you guys! xo